Movie “Which Team Will You Chose?”
Scenes from “Which Team Will You Choose?”
This fun and educational story inspires children (and their grown-ups) to discover the power within each one of us to help stop “bucket-dipping” and bullying by becoming more caring, courageous, and compassionate. Become a Champion of Bucket-filling!
“Dee DiGioia’s video on bullying is so powerful! The impact the video will make across young children and adults is immeasurable. It is so simple yet utterly crucial to become knowledgeable about the effects of bullying and gain insight on ways you can prevent it!” Jaime Enscoe, parent
An original movie written, directed, and produced by educator Dee DiGioia who was determined to contribute to a more positive culture in her school where she taught. The 45-minute story on dvd is included in the purchase of the Guidebook “One Caring and Courageous Choice at a Time” for parents and educators. Intended audience is for children ages 5-12 and their grownups in classrooms, youth groups (sports, scouts, special interests), or at home.
“Which Team Will You Choose?” complements any existing social-emotional learning program or bullying prevention program you already have in place, or helps inspire you to get one started. It will also help families practice becoming a “bucket-filling family” together!
Being a bucket-filler means we are saying or doing things which help others feel good and feel happy and fills their bucket (heart) with good thoughts and feelings, whereas bucket-dipping is saying or doing something which dips into our bucket (heart) and takes away those good feelings causing sadness, confusion, hurt, or anger. Bullying is bucket-dipping at its worst because it not a mistake, it is a choice with the intention to make someone feel bad, sad, scared or embarrassed. Someone who stands up to bullying is a bucket-filler and is intent on leaving #heartprints on others.
ABOUT THE STORY: “Which Team Will You Choose?” is a story about some elementary school students who are experiencing the detrimental effects of bucket-dipping and bullying within their own friendship circle in their school. When a teacher leaves the classroom, Tina has an opportunity to bully her friend Kiara, and it’s probably not the first time. The other children are powerless to stop her, or are they? Along comes a Coach to help them learn how to “exercise their brains” and become “Champions” in their relationships with one another. He introduces “BF”, the Bucket-filling team leader, and “Dip”, the Bucket-dipping team leader who seem to get in our brains and they both try to get us on their team! BF encourages the children to “be smart, use your heart!” to help them practice using a caring and courageous heart in making choices when confronted with bullying in their friendship circles. Coach and BF help the children understand that everything people do or say is by choice, and can either add to the problem of bullying, or help the problem go away. According to the scoreboard, their choices quickly added up and contributed to the bullying problem, putting them on the team they never dreamed they would be on –“Dip’s” team. Is it hopeless to think they can change and be on BF’s team? How will they ever remember what to do? Is it too late to “flip the dip?”
Every child deserves a patient and caring “Coach” to guide them throughout life. A coach, like the one in our story, takes us from where we are to where we want to be. In this story, one by one, the children in the story, and the children in our audience discover that “it’s cool to care” and will learn how to take responsibility in making caring, courageous, compassionate choices which will contribute to happier, healthier, safer, more compassionate and peaceful relationships in their friendships and ultimately with others throughout life.
Bullying is a complex problem and may never disappear, but we can certainly learn to respond in peace-promoting ways to help the problem get smaller instead of perpetuating the cycle. We can’t control things that happen and we can’t control things that others choose to say and do. However, we can control the thoughts we have about it, and we can control our response to it. That power is our choice! We learn to practice nonviolence one caring and courageous choice at a time, one day at a time, to help peace and happiness multiply. This is how we each, in our own way, move our homes, our classrooms, our communities in a direction of peace.
“My younger brother and I used to fight sometimes and provoke each other by dipping into each other’s bucket, and dipping back. My mom introduced us to the movie and we watched it together as a family. My brother and I have not had a fight since. Watching the movie helped us learn to fill each other’s buckets and now we try to fill each other’s bucket each day. It helped me a lot in my relationship with my brother because it taught me how to be a BF bucket filler and not be a bucket dipper. When I bucket fill, it makes me feel wonderful inside. I used to fill other people’s buckets easily but not my brothers. Now I understand to have a happy relationship I can bucket fill to make relationships better and keep them great! I like making jokes. The movie also helped me realize that to help a situation that could be negative, I can use my humor to make it more positive. Bucket filling has helped my whole family and I am very happy that I got to watch the movie. It makes my whole family happy and it makes me happy too! When I grow up, I’m going to have my own children watch it so they can understand it and they will know how to fill each other’s buckets. Thank you very much Ms. Dee. You’ve helped me so much.” Damien Dormoy, age 11
AFTER THE MOVIE: FOLLOW-UP
Watching the movie should spark further ongoing discussions about the very complex issues of bullying. The story is approximately 45 minutes. It is also broken into mini scenes (only a few minutes each) which can be reviewed at a later time, or paused like a commercial break, for important followup discussions. These are the scenes:
- Introduction to Bucket-filling and Bucket-dipping
- The Bullying Incident
- Meet Coach, BF, and Dip
- Adding up the problem: Bullying
- Adding up the problem: what the bystanders didn’t SAY
- Adding up the problem: what the bystanders didn’t DO
- Tattling vs. Reporting
- Adding up the problem: the Target
- Flip the Dip
- Practice, practice!
- We did it!
- Anyone can change!
- Peace for You and Me
I encourage parents and educators to provide opportunities to practice the skills introduced in the story and explained in my guidebook “One Caring and Courageous Choice at a Time.” The book offers important follow-up discussion questions, supplemental activities and projects to keep communication open and on-going to help awaken the hearts and minds of elementary school children and help empower them with valuable life-skills in knowing what to say or what to do when confronted with bullying. Please go to the Guidebook page to learn more. The dvd is included with the purchase of the guidebook.
If you would like help in maximizing the valuable lessons from the movie “Which Team Will You Choose?” I offer:
- teacher/parent workshops,
- children’s Circles of Compassion workshops,
- ongoing classes based on the movie and guidebook,
- private Coaching and consulting.
Contact Dee DiGioia .
“I highly recommend Caring and Courageous Kids movie ”Which Team Will You Choose?” to parents, educators and therapists. The lessons are simple, easy to understand and yet so powerful. The format is perfect for kids. They gain important perspective as they observe how different children experience a bullying situation from within and then learn from the helpful and exceptional lessons taught thereafter. Additionally, children learn how to keep themselves happy and fulfilled and not let others bring them down. They learn how to stand up for themselves and for what is right. My own household has been greatly and positively impacted by this work. The lessons taught have deeply touched and improved the relationship between my own two sons who are very close in age. As an educator myself, I have seen a lot of great tools available for children. This tool however is one that I will use and refer to forever. While the focus is Bullying, the lessons can be applied to every relationship. The impact of this movie on schools and in our homes is tremendous. It all starts with one little spark of caring. I believe “Which Team Will You Choose” is that spark to start our peace revolution.” Mellisa Dormoy, founder ShambalaKids
“I enjoyed being in the movie and I hope that people will learn that bucket-dipping is so wrong and that there won’t be as much bucket-dipping in schools.” Kendall Lach (Tina in the movie), 5th grade student